Sometimes just following a voice is grounding. Here is Wild Geese, a poem by Mary Oliver. Ask yourself to stay present to the poem itself, the tones, the syllables themselves, allowing yourself to really hear it.
…that you may not have heard. Someone drew this site to my attention.
Try to take a few of these on the ‘road’ – Aka, try them out. Try just a couple that you can back up with actions. For instance, if you say: “You have a fair point”, let yourself be impacted by their opinions. If you say “I’m listening”, listen. And if you don’t have time to listen at the moment, say that. Honesty behind these words will work more wonders that the words alone. So maybe “I love being your parent” becomes, “I love being your parent even when I’m too tired to show it”! Try to use the ones that speak your children’s language, not necessarily the ones you value most.
See what happens when you try a couple on yourself – speaking to yourself. Choose tolerable ones, not the hardest ones: